Much has been said recently about how MMD discussions have been
conducted.  There are conflicting ideas concerning how discussions
should be conducted.

Jody and Robbie have been doing a wonderful, albeit sometimes trying,
job of editing and moderating the MMD.  Although they whole-heartedly
encourage thoughtful discussion, part of their job is to restrain
and/or suppress potential conflicts that arise which could disrupt
everyone's enjoyment of the Digest.  It is a difficult but necessary
part of their job.  There are some subscribers who would like to
contribute their opinions but are reluctant to do so because of fear
that their ideas will be attacked by others.  Emphatic and strongly
worded postings can discourage contributors who might otherwise have
very good ideas to share.

There are ways to avert these potentially disruptive scenes.
_Never_ send a submission to the MMD when you're in an emotional state.
If something that someone said really makes you angry, write your
submission, but don't send it -- yet.  Shut off your computer, go for a
walk, go for a drive, go to a movie, etc. -- anything to take your mind
off the subject for awhile.  Better still, sleep on it overnight.
Then, re-read your submission.  Chances are you'll want to make
changes, or else not send it at all.

If you disagree with someone, avoid using inciting phrases such as
"You're wrong" or "That's not true."

Them's fightin' words.  Instead, say, "I disagree."  It is less
offensive.

It's okay to criticize someone's opinion, but it is _not_ right
to criticize the person.  However, if someone does disagree with you,
don't take it personally.  It doesn't mean he/she dislikes you or
thinks you're a terrible person.

For the MMD to operate effectively, all opinions should be encouraged,
but it should be opinions that have not been muddled with frothy
emotion and sarcastic personal attacks.

Thanks,
Joyce Brite
http://www-personal.ksu.edu/~brite/

 [ Well done, Joyce.  Thank you!  -- Robbie